Why I Don’t Feel Guilty About Having My “Me Time”

Okay, this is a touchy subject.

Some women don’t talk about it.
Some don’t want to hear it because to them, it doesn’t exist.
Guys may not like it.
Children may not understand it.
Society could label you.
Your soul will thank you.

When I talk about me time, I’m talking about a period when mothers just need some space to breathe. It could be thirty minutes, 60 minutes, whatever…just some time to think properly, focus and regain our composure.

My “me” time is precious.
I remember a while back, I went to our local supermarket alone to buy some groceries. It was supposed to be a quick stop, only a couple of items but I spent about ninety minutes (and it wasn’t because of long lines at the check out). When I got home, the inquisition went like this:

My 3 year old: “mommy, where did you go for such a long time?”
My 6 year old: “mommy, why does it always take you forever to go to the store?”
My husband: “what do you do when you go to that store?”

It turned out that I had spent thirty minutes just clearing my head and writing a message that the Lord had placed in my heart.

Going to the supermarket isn’t really one of my favorite things to do but that time when I sat in my car in the parking lot before entering the store was precious. I regained my energy and I used that opportunity to walk in my purpose – uplifting the masses.

Dear mom, your me time is necessary. Don’t feel guilty when you take some time out to relax and enjoy your life. Your children want an energized and happy mom, not a grumpy and worn out mommy.

Two serious issues people impose on themselves is lack of time management and an abandonment of life’s purpose and dreams.

I have observed situations where people who should be enjoying their golden and retirement years are spewing a lot of negativity and anger towards each other and even on the brink of divorce! At the core of the “irreconcilable difference” is finger-pointing with one party blaming the other for not living his or her life.

Get some essential “me time” for your sanity.

It doesn’t mean you don’t love your kids or significant other – you are a human being afterall and you need to find some time to relax and be you.

Manage your time well.

As moms, we are constantly doing things and it may seem like there aren’t enough hours in the day for us. Actually, there are enough hours. Moms, our self-care is non-negotiable. I am the very blessed mom of three. I know so.

When I self-imposed super mom status, I was like an overworked machine. Guess what? When a machine is overworked, it heats up and possibly breaks down.

When you are worn out, you become agitated and fed up. Don’t let that be your portion. Thankfully for me, I knew I had to achieve greatness and the way I was going wasn’t going to help me but break me.

So I had to carve out some “me time” so I could be me – mommy, wife, pastor, daughter, sister, entrepreneur …everything God created me to be.

You can read more about my story and how to be happy in my new book, You can Be Set Free: Purposefully Unleash Yourself and Reclaim Your Joy.

Question: How do you spend your me time? Please leave a comment and let’s help each other.

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Belinda Enoma

Belinda is a Global Privacy and Cybersecurity Consultant, Corporate Trainer, Writer, and International Speaker with a unique blend of law and technology expertise. In addition, she is a digital entrepreneur, ordained pastor, mentor to women ready to impact their generation. She is the host of Destiny Chats podcast and lives in New York with her family. For consultation , click here