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Is it Difficult for You to Say “No?”

May 24, 2020 Belinda Enoma Leave a Comment

easiest way to say now is to write it down


How do you say no to something that you are not interested in, that is detrimental to your future or cause? What is the easiest way to say no?

Several years ago I read a wisdom key that said, “Don’t complain about what you allow” and it has stuck with me ever since. Why complain about Mr. Y or Ms. Z when each time he or she comes to you, you easily say yes, perhaps inconvenience yourself, risk your mind, heart (or everything that matters to you) or even run into debt for them?

When you say “no,” it does not mean that you are wicked or selfish. Don’t allow anyone put pressure on you to do what you don’t want to do or become who God has not called you to be.

You’re not a doormat. You are unique and have the right to be your own individual.

So, how do you proceed with your “no” without feeling guilty?

Clarity is an emancipation catalyst. When you see what’s wrong, you can fix it or at least strive to improve.

Write a “no” list and include what you will not put up with any longer.

  • Write down the things that have been holding you back for a long time.
  • Think about why you have not yet achieved what you really want to achieve and if your “yes” has been a contributing factor.
  • Why have you have been saying “yes” to your own detriment? Write the answer down.
  • Think about what you will gain by saying “no.”

After you have gathered your thoughts and can see clearly what you won’t allow to hinder you any more, then proceed to write the list. Then, write a “yes” list of what you will allow. Be bold and speak up. Just say NO.

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You can read more about unleashing yourself and reclaiming your joy in my book, You Can Be Set Free


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Belinda Enoma
Belinda Enoma

Belinda is a Global Privacy and Cybersecurity Consultant, Corporate Trainer, Writer, and International Speaker with a unique blend of law and technology expertise. In addition, she is a digital entrepreneur, ordained pastor, mentor to women ready to impact their generation. She is the host of Destiny Chats podcast and lives in New York with her family. For consultation , click here 

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