Four Reasons Why People Behave in a Certain Way in Relationships

[I may sound brash in some of my posts. It’s because I prefer to not sugar-coat stuff but tell it like it is. No offense. :)]

Do you need clarity about your relationship and interaction with certain individuals? Well, here are four relationship nuggets that will help you understand why some people do what they do and how to handle them without tearing your hair out.

The Hurt Trait
Hurting People Hurt People
If you pay close attention, you will notice that people who love to cause problems in people’s lives are truly very unhappy [hurting, upset, troubled]. They won’t stop until they drag someone else down with them. When you observe this trait, you will IGNORE a lot of people’s nonsense and won’t let their ignorance bother you.

Toxic Office Teams
Some work relationships are very toxic, with team members who gossip and do all kinds of nasty things to remove you from your position. Be careful. Don’t engage in office politics or be pulled into any nonsensical discussion. Be the light in that place. Do your job and IGNORE.

Old Friends – That’s what they should be, “Old”
Sometimes the people who drag you down (and want to keep you down) are the ones you grew up with – they can’t see beyond “the person that you used to be.” They will bring up your past saying: “Please, I know you! Are you sure you know what you are doing?” IGNORE.

They don’t believe in your extraordinary abilities or where God is taking you. Please be very careful about “these people.” The enemy within – the one that eats with you is more dangerous than the one outside.

There’s nothing wrong with getting new friends who are purposefully looking upwards, not negative or miserable but working towards living their best lives. Bad friends will destroy you.

Sibling Issues Aren’t Worth the Headache
Okay, perhaps you have some sibling issues going on. Maybe there’s a particular sibling who is wreaking havoc in your life. You even wonder why God made you related. Children from the same womb “hating on each other.”

You cannot continue like this with deep anger and contention. So, LET IT GO. Yes, you’re hurt. You are angry. You deserve to be, right? LET IT GO [again]. You are bigger than the situation. Choose to enjoy your life and not be unhappy because someone wants that for you.

Choose to be happy. Purposefully walk in joy. BE FREE. Don’t let someone mess up your day (or life). God is in control.

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Belinda Enoma, LLM

Belinda Enoma is an international speaker, Cyber Privacy and Security Consultant focusing on US-EU laws including the General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR). She is a renowned digital influencer, author, host of iEmancipateMe global conferences, ordained pastor and mentor to women who are life changers.