[I had to write this article because many people in business get frustrated when they don’t have support from their spouses. It gets worse when one spouse thinks that the other must join in the business]
It’s not compulsory that your spouse has to join you in business.
One mistake many married entrepreneurs make is that they think that if their spouses aren’t part of their businesses, then there’s no support, someone isn’t pulling his or her weight, only one person is doing all the work, etc.
LISTEN—->Your spouse has a life. Yes, two became one when you got married but you need to focus on the vision that God has given you. God has given you the vision for a reason and if He thought your spouse was fit for it, He would have shown him or her too.
When you expect too much from people, you set yourself up for big disappointments and false promises. Don’t allow someone who doesn’t understand your vision to mess things up for you.
In a recent discussion someone said: “But you don’t understand. He doesn’t support anything I do. Infact, he thinks it’s a joke. I don’t think he really cares about me because if he did, he would join me, support me and help me.”
Quit complaining and learn to encourage yourself and do what you must do. Don’t waste your time being angry if you don’t have the kind of support you expect. Some things you have to let slide and not take things too personal. Why try to force someone who is not interested in your business or how you do things to join you? If you do, you set yourself up for problems.
Ask yourself these TWO questions before you get your spouse involved:
- Would you interview and hire someone who is clearly not interested in your business?
- Is your spouse qualified for the job or position? Put your “family obligations & thoughts” aside and think like a real business owner.
For your business to grow, you need to surround yourself with like-minded business folks who are passionate about what you are pursuing. The pursuit of business prosperity without passion is easy to spot and most likely, people won’t buy what you are selling.
Let your spouse be your spouse – that’s it!
If you are blessed with an entrepreneurial spouse with the right skill set your business needs to get to the next level, praise the Lord! If not, then focus on what you are doing and hire someone who can do the job, connect with like minds in your field and finish strong.
Life is too short to be walking around with vexation and complaints about your significant other not helping you, not doing this, not doing that.
Negativity is distraction you don’t need.
Focus on your goal. You can achieve it! Keep your eyes on the prize, your desired destination and press on. Stop doing what doesn’t work and start doing what works.
QUESTION: What do you think – should your spouse join you in business? Do you work well with your spouse or you don’t even want to go there?
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Thank you so much for this inspiring thoughts. We often like to obtrude OUR God given vision on our spouse. If the Lord wants a joint business between both spouse, he will also reveal to them individually. But if not, write your vision plain that whoever sees it (and not necessarily your spouse) will run with it.
You are so right. It’s improper to force someone to do what God has not told him or her to do. It’s best to focus on the vision and mission and work with the best person qualified to carry out the tasks.