1. Everybody is not your friend.
There are people who want you to be what they want you to be because of what they will gain from you walking their own path. This does not mean that you should not trust anyone. I am saying that you have to use discernment in your dealings.
Don’t jump around from project to project because Mr. D says that’s the best thing right now or because Ms. K says the grass is greener on her side. Stay focused on what you are doing. In due season, you shall reap a bountiful harvest.
If you want to live without regrets, then ponder the path of your feet, be bold and be who God created you to be.
2. Know your audience.
If you do not know your audience, it is possible that at some point, you will become frustrated. The response you expect you may not get because the people you are communicating with are not assigned to you. Friendliness doesn’t mean total support. Facebook “LIKES” do not equate reception or responsiveness. You will prevent a lot of headaches by identifying your audience and giving them the solutions they need.
3. Constantly remind yourself of your title.
This is not to give you a big head but to help you stay focused. As a writer, you write, right? If you are a speaker, you speak. If you are a teacher, you teach. If you are a coach, you coach. Which one do you call yourself and what are you really doing that befits the title?
WORK THAT TITLE. If you call yourself a speaker, then speak! Use the tool in your hand and speak. You don’t need to wait for someone to invite you to speak before you start speaking.
Before the iEmancipateME Conference became a tour, it was a series of teleseminars. Things did not happen overnight. There were many periods of not knowing whether anyone would attend, trying to keep the kids quiet while I delivered solutions that would help people worldwide.
There were threats of weariness because I was juggling multiple things. However, I did not allow anything to freeze my purpose or disrupt my focus. I knew I had a message. I knew that the result for delivering the message was freedom for people. I had tools in my hand and I went forth.
To do nothing will yield nothing. What are you doing with what you have and already know?
Things can be so overwhelming that you don’t want to do anything anymore. Don’t listen to the voice of defeat. Operate with a clear head and keep your eyes on your destination. You can get there, and with determination, you will.
Belinda Enoma is an international speaker, Cyber Privacy and Security Consultant focusing on US-EU laws including the General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR). She is a renowned digital influencer, author, ordained pastor, host of iEmancipateMe Global Conferences and mentor to women who are life changers.